On Facebook I read a post about how many children with special needs go through the addition heartbreak of isolation. They are seldom invited to go to parties and other events with their peers.
Days before my High School Senior prom, I couldn’t stand the thought of missing out on the fun so I asked a boy to take me. I’m sure I surprised the guy, and I threw my mom into a spin because she only had a few days to get me ready.
Even though there are attempts to include kids with special needs, all too often efforts fail. Last year, I read an article about a student who used a wheelchair. She practiced for the Christmas program along with her classmates. She learned all the songs and was excited the night of their performance. As her friends climbed on to the stage, her wheelchair was parked in down below the stage. Her smiles turned to tears when she realized she was all alone.
During a discussion group centered on grief and loss I had some life changing revelations. Two women in the group were amputees. As they talked, I recognized I had similar feelings. I haven’t let my disability control me but a there are times I’ve felt sad about what I haven’t been able to do. For instance, in springtime many are out either riding bikes or doing other activities. Feelings of loss often spring up when everyone else is having fun. After I identified my loss and acknowledged my pain I was able to let Jesus heal it.
Another symptom of feeling like you’re always missing out on the fun others are having is not feeling satisfied with what you’re doing. This has often caused me wear myself out, because of feeling compelled to look for the next fun thing or group of people who would give me a sense of belonging.
In 2 Cor.2:10 Paul tells us to take every thought captive.
When we let God heal our hearts by transforming our minds we are no longer captives to the pain in our past.
I got a new hummingbird feeder a few weeks ago. For a few days after I hung it up I felt a bit disappointed because I didn’t see any birds. Finally I got a colorful plant that they’re attracted to and that made all the difference. Soon after I got the new plant, I was thrilled when a pair of them visited for a few seconds. I have noticed now, that the longer I have a feeder hanging on my patio, the more birds come. Some stay longer than others, delighting my heart as they take in nutrition. They never seem to stop moving. Even when they are at the feeder their tiny wings are fluttering at a rate of 80 times per second.
We are a lot like hummingbirds, flitting from here to there. We may want to hear from our Heavenly Father, yet quieting our minds feels impossible. Like the hummers sipping at the feeder, our busy minds prevent us from hearing what our Heavenly Father wants to whisper in our ear.
I’m glad that He invites us to “be still and know” that He is God. As beautiful as my little friends are, I want to be more than a flash of busy color. I want to be quiet long enough to absorb His message of love so I can share it with others.
November hasn’t been my easiest month. If you didn’t notice, there weren’t many blogs and a lot of my other activities were cancelled too. This was because of an uninvited respiratory infection that is going around. i seem to be doing much better now.
I thought I had my coughing under control around Thanksgiving day, so I went over to a friend’s house to celebrate. After hacking my way through the day, my daughter loaded me into the car, and instead of taking me home, we went to Urgent Care. I thought, “Oh my goodness, this is going to take all night!” But I was pleasantly surprised that I got in and out in a matter of 3 hours!
My next hurdle that had been looming over me all month had been getting out our first Joni and Friends newsletter. I was frustrated when people who had offered to help did not come through, but I was relieved when the Lord provided others who were willing to help.
Last night as i was reading updates on some of my friends, one had written this,”Not everyday is good, but everyday has something good in it!” I could relate to this because of the last month being full of ups and downs. I was thinking about all of the things that have gone ‘wrong’ lately, and I realized that I had learned more about God’s faithfulness; that when I thought things were out of control, they were actually just in His control, not mine.
So as we head into the busy month of December and feel out of control, just take a breath and re-focus your eyes on the Prince of Peace!
I can remember the yummy chicken dinners that my mother prepared in her pressure cooker; at the end of the process, the chicken was tenderized. A pressure cooker works using a combination of pressure and steam to cook food quickly. There is a valve to control the steam and a certain amount of steam is let off to alleviate some of the pressure at different times in the cooking process.
A lot of us have different coping mechanisms to alleviate some of the stress that we feel, and sometimes one of those is Facebook. It connects us just enough to let off some steam and alleviate the pressure quickly. Even though we feel better when we let off steam, it doesn’t last for long. We need to have the courage to stay involved in the process of discovering why we’re upset and ‘stay on the burner.’
Yesterday, I was presented with some unexpected news and now I have to weigh the pros and cons about how to deal with this issue. I need to stay on the burner and deal with this, and there will be consequences either way, but in the end, I know that it will lead to my heart being tenderized.
We live in a society where sometimes we don’t share the important things; we would rather stay in safe conversations. Oddly enough, though we live in a society connected through cell phones and Facebook and so many other websites, we live in isolation. That disconnect is making us lonely as a society.
It is risky to share what is really going on because there is always a high probability that people are not going to understand; even your closest friends might not understand. That is why we make choices about whether or not to speak up and be authentic or just live lives on the surface. No matter which way you choose to go, there are always losses. It could be a loss in friendship or a loss of security. Telling the truth disrupts your life as it is now, but when we have the courage to go through the process of being tenderized, we gain strength and freedom.